Let me begin this blog post by saying this VERY loud + clear: you are inherently worthy and exactly enough as you are. The thing is, me (and others) saying this can only do so much… unless you believe it, your sense of self esteem and worthiness can’t be fulfilled in that way. A true sense of worthiness comes from within; from knowing deep down in your soul that you are inherently + always enough, no matter what.
If you identify as a HSP (highly sensitive person) or as a feminine being, just know that we’re particularly at risk to having an overall sense of not ever being enough…
Not smart enough. Not wealthy enough. Not attractive enough. Not productive enough
Sound familiar?
The thing is, from a spiritual point of view, you are absolutely perfect and enough just as you are – just as perfect as you were the day you were born. And you are a spirit having a human experience, after all. Having this sense of safety and awareness in your spirit is helpful, but what’s also important is to pair that with practical and mindful tools that allow you to tap back into your innate worthiness every day.
The recipe = the marriage of both the tools of mindfulness + spirituality to remind yourself of your inherent worth + to build your self-esteem. This blog post rounds up those tools.
When You Awake, Shift To Gratitude As Quickly As Possible
What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning? Better still, what is the very first thought that you have?
One of the great modern spiritual teachers, Lousie Hay, began each morning by first thanking her bed for a good night’s sleep. How would it feel to awaken with such gratitude?
It’s okay if your first thought currently isn’t something so beautiful and empowering – it’s about creating the intention to make the shift to begin the day in a positive state because you know that power that has to impact the way the rest of your day goes.
When you wake up your day in deep gratitude for the life you’re in and the body that allows you to experience life on this planet, your self-appreciation and sense of worth will most certainly increase
Here are some tools that have supported my clients (+ myself!) to make this shift:
- Keep an empowering prayer or affirmation to start your day with on your nightstand so its the first thing you see in the morning
- Meditate with mala prayer beads
- Cut cords with a selenite blade
For the longest time, this was the quote I had on my nightstand. I hope it brings you peace in your mornings too:
““Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings.”
– Dalai Lama XIV
Talk to Yourself (Lovingly) In The Mirror
I can never reference the late great Louise Hay too much, but she herself was a pioneer of Mirror Work: the principle of looking deeply into your eyes in the mirror and gently talking to yourself.
Hay encourages us to look in the mirror and say lovingly to ourselves, “Life Loves You,” but you don’t have to necessarily use that affirmation if it doesn’t serve you (though I have to say from experience, it does!)… and eventually add “and I love life”
Mirror work increases our sense of self-love and worthiness by allowing us to connect and love the purest essence of who we are.
If you’ve never tried mirror work and want guidance along the way, I highly recommend reading “Life Loves You” by Louise Hay and Robert Holden.
Remind Yourself Of Your Strengths
One of the exercises I love having my clients do (especially when they’re feeling really strong and resilient) is to create a list of their favourite things about themselves. What’s really helpful about this list is that it’s proof for yourself, when you’re in a tougher moment, of how much there is to love about yourself. Of just how worthy you are.
Our brains like to gather evidence to support a belief, and when we’re cultivating or strengthening a new belief, it’s integral that you create the evidence for your brain to support that new belief.
If you keep a diary or journal, that is a great place to write this. If not, simply take a blank sheet of paper and jot it out and keep it somewhere you’ll be able to easily reference it when you need it most.
If you struggle with this, you could consider these prompts:
- I am proud of myself for…
- I am really good at….
- I love this about myself…
- My favourite feature of my personality is…
Build Your Confidence + Cultivate Self-Love Through Intentional Journaling…
Journaling allows you to…
- Rewire limiting habitual ways of being
- Give spotlight to your intuition’s voice
- Provide a solstice of self-care
- and develop a resilient mindset
These prompts are here to guide you when you need to dig deep into your own resilience and self-love.
